Meet Yourself Where You Are At

IMG_0317First, I want to introduce Appa (ah-pa)  =D … the newest addition to our little family. He’s a 4-month-old, Aussie – Keeshond mix. He is flippin adorable and fluffy and energetic and dramatic and a little monster. Needless to say… He fits right in. Also, he will be running our lives while we train him. Soooooo, pray for us. 

As I type this post, I am perfectly content. But, just a day ago, I was ready to scream my head off. Overwhelmed. Frustrated. Annoyed. Confused. I can’t choose just one emotion to describe my dis-ease. Nor can I pinpoint the exact reason. But, I imagine we all get like this. We all have those days. They come. They go. They linger and manifest into weeks. Some people handle it well. While others, like myself, must consciously extract themselves from the bottomless pit of doubt. It can be a long drawn out process… OR NOT.

Here is my solution: Accept it. Simply surrender to the emotions you are experiencing. Sometimes, “bad” moods are necessary. For whatever reason (if you dig deep enough, I’m sure you can identify it) you are at a low point in your life. It sucks. I get it. I also know that society has taught us to stay positive. To fight back. Don’t show weakness. Work through it. I get that too. It would be a shame for anyone to subject themselves to a life full of self-pity. However, your feelings are completely valid. A little self-pity can be necessary at times.

Make it easy on yourself and simply, meet yourself where you are at. If you are feeling down. Feel down. Seclude yourself and eat ice cream all day if you want. Sleep all day. Cry in a pillow. Give up your routine for a week. Wear the same sweats you’ve been wearing for three days straight. Just do it. Meet yourself where you are at. Don’t try to make yourself feel guilty for not being positive like everyone is telling you to be. Be sad. Submerge yourself into the feelings. Experience it. Love it. Laugh at it; no matter how serious you’re “supposed” to be about the situation.

But here is the important part… Know when to disassociate yourself with it. At some point become the observer. Pretend you are giving your nearest, dearest friend some incredible advice about the situation… And then, TAKE IT!

Know that you have the power to change your circumstances, IF you truly desire.

 

If you’re fixated on getting and feeling better, trying to force something you aren’t ready for. Stop. This only gets in the way. You’re just setting yourself up with an unnecessary expectation and suppressing the real issue. Meaning, even if this time you get yourself out of that funk by force, you’re not too far away from the next breakdown.

It’s okay to feel sad. It’s okay to cry. It’s okay to hate yourself. Meet yourself where you are at. Just remember, this is just another cycle, another phase, and you don’t have to identify with it.

That’s the Buddhist philosophy. #meditateonit

 

Tyler

 

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Meditation Tips

Well… hello =) Sorry it’s been a minute since our last post… I won’t make any excuses. Just know that we are officially back at it 😉

so, without any further delay

This is MEDITATION TIPS – a post that could potentially save your life

I started becoming aware of my spiritual awakening a little over a year ago. It wasn’t something I asked for (or was it? Law of Attraction, baby). It just sort of began. It was at a time when I was especially vulnerable and unsure of thmeditation101e world or my place in it. I had just gone through some HUGE changes. One of them being, not having to work anymore. I had the luxury of getting paid to attend school. I quit my job. I attended classes twice a week. I participated in a couple of online classes. I traveled a little. Worked out, daily. Had a few “flings.” Wrote some. Partied some. And read, a lot. It was nice… Until it wasn’t. I soon realized I was on a dangerous path. I craved continuous mental and/or physical stimulation. I needed to be engaged in something from the time I woke up, until the time I was able to fall asleep just to feel fulfilled. And even though I felt like I was getting a lot accomplished, in reality I was neglecting my healing process by replacing it with constant distractions. I wasn’t taking the time to really listen to myself or my needs. My addiction to stimulation began to drain me. I had to do something. So, I developed a routine. I made it a habit to roll out of bed, sit in my closest, clear my head, and meditate for 15 to 20 minutes. Every single morning.

At first, it was hard. The thoughts would not stop flowing! There were times when I left my meditation more frustrated than when I started. But, I continued. Because, there were more days where meditating actually benefited me. I felt grounded. My thoughts were clearer. I felt in control of my emotions, or at least, my reactions. And above all, I felt an unreal amount of unconditional love for myself and the people around me. Ultimately, it saved my life. Developing this one habit literally turned my world around.

Now, it’s not my job to convince you. Meditation works for me. It may or may not work for you. However, without a doubt, I believe it is worth trying. So here are some suggestions if you aren’t sure how or where to start:

  • Release all expectations – whatever anyone told you (including me) about how meditation is supposed to be or feel like, forget it. This is your own experience and there are no right or wrong ways to experience it.
  • Be consistent – give yourself at least two weeks before you decide it doesn’t work for you. And allow yourself to gradually get into it. You don’t have to jump to 20 minutes. 5 minutes a day for a while is perfectly fine.
  • If it feels forced, STOP – listen to yourself.  Go for a run instead, or journal. Yoga is also a form of meditation. Meditating is not meant to be frustrating. It’s meant to be liberating.
  • Get a stone – go to your nearest metaphysical shop and pick up a stone to hold in your hand while you meditate. Different ones help with different things, like self-love, courage, protection, grounding, etc. If you would like a suggestion, Tasha and I would be happy to help.
  • Don’t judge your thoughts – it is what it is, and there is a reason it is coming up. If it’s really bothering you, write them out before you begin and if they become a distraction, imagine letting them flow down a river, then bring yourself back to the present moment.
  • Start out focusing on your breath – take deep breaths into your lungs and in your belly, and release slowly. Visualize prana going in and out.
  • Have a mantra – if you are having a hard time getting your thoughts to stop racing, find a mantra like: “I deserve love,” “I am a positive light in the world,” “I attract positive people and situations.” Or you can google whatever fits. Say this in your head over and over.
  • Don’t rush it – allow yourself to go into it naturally and to come out of it naturally. Take your time. This is an intimate moment you owe to yourself.
  • Listen to binaural beats – these are amazing! I plan on writing a separate post about them. But until then, YouTube ‘binaural beats for meditation’ get some headphones and just relax… you are welcome ; )

Above all, see my first suggestion. Remember every experience is different and unique for each individual. The main idea is to let it all go. And to realize that whatever experience you do have, is absolutely perfect for you in that moment.

With that being said, I won’t hold you up any longer… good luck meditating friend.  And remember, we’re always here if you have any questions.

Peace and Love,

Tyler

 

 

The Art of the Struggle

First, let me start out by apologizing to our readers. We have not been posting as consistently as we would like to. Honestly, we have both been busy fixing resumes, writing cover letters, applying for jobs and going to interviews, working with financial aid so we can go to school and picking out classes while simultaneously trying to work on our individual growth and find time to eat (a newly acquired vegan diet) and sleep a solid 8 hours a night. Basically, we have been letting life (by definition of our social constructs) get in the way of our passion for writing and our love for sharing with our readers.
So anyway, back to the real topic of this post…. I recently got a message from the universe telling me to strive for opportunities that seem out of reach. After all, the bigger the risk.. the bigger the reward. Right?
So, after sending in application after application and hearing back from MAYBE 1/3 of the companies (those I was hearing back from were the trivial jobs I wasn’t too excited about). I was starting to lose hope that maybe I was aiming a little too high. I reached for opportunities, asked those with connections to give me any helpful information they had (and I am so grateful for those who did) and still made seemingly zero progress.
I started to really get down on myself. I am a 22 year-old who has lived in 5 different cities, attended 3 different Universities, declared 4 different majors, still lives at home, didn’t have a job (I landed a pretty good job at a salon I am super excited about… YAY), haven’t been taking care of my body, and hasn’t done half of the things I said I would since leaving high school four years ago. I felt like I was on a road to nowhere and that I was doing nothing about it. Day after day I was seeing snaps, Instagram posts, and Facebook updates that reminded me that everyone else has their life together and I am just a bum living the life of un-abundance and stagnation. I even harbored guilt about not posting on the blog; feeling like I had nothing to write about and no inspiration that was driven 100% by me and no other outside influence. Essentially, I felt like a complete loser. But after sitting and really thinking about (a.k.a. Meditating On) my life, the path I have chosen, where I am heading, and how far I have really come in my own personal journey (not necessarily by the standards of society), I realized I was being way too hard on myself. Sure, I was feeling really stagnant and that I was literally making a living on the struggle bus, but that is bound to happen. Tyler even reassured me that for someone my age, these feelings of being overwhelmed, undervalued, and unproductive are normal.
Above all else I realized that my struggle was a gift; that although I spent years (and lots of money) trying to figure out my purpose, I was on an incredible path to awakening, peace, joy, and harmony with the rest of the world (both physical and spiritual). I realized that no.. I do not have a fancy degree like most people my age, but I am striving for a degree that I am passionate about and I fully intend on utilizing every bit of information I am paying thousands of dollars for. I realized that yes, I am living at home but I don’t have to stress about rent and I can really take some time to develop within myself rather than break my back trying to pay outrageous amounts of money just to sleep, eat, and breathe under a roof. I realized that all of my indecision about where I want to live, what I want to be doing, and where I want to go to school have put me in environments and situations that I never would have found myself in. And yes, I literally found more pieces of myself in each city and university. I realized that I didn’t have a job because the best one (for the moment) was waiting for me. I realized that I can start taking care of my body TODAY rather than sitting and beating myself up for not doing it yesterday. I realized that no, I haven’t achieved all of my goals (yet) but that is because I dream big and my achievements are not all things I can acquire or master by tomorrow. I realized that I do not need to feel guilty for not writing because I would rather give you guys something genuine and inspirational to read rather than to post something just to say I “did my job for the day”. I realized (again) that social media is a platform most people use to share the best aspects of their life, which is amazing because people share so many positive and inspirational things, but everyone is struggling in their own way. And the fact that everyone is struggling is beautiful because (hopefully) that means they are learning from their place of stagnation and developing into more productive and self-loving individuals. I realized that inspiration is everywhere if I just stop to really observe and experience everything that is going on in the present. And I realized that I am a part of the most beautiful, interconnected system in the cosmos; that I am always a work in progress, that I am a conscious and loving soul capable of so many great things and that I deserve to be here, in this life because the work i am here to do is going to help the world find unconditional love.
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If you find yourself struggling, I highly encourage you to take some time to think (meditate, drink some tea, take a bath, write in a journal) and list what aspects of your life you would change and why. Then list all of the positive aspects of those struggles. I encourage you to repeat those affirmations to yourself: I am beautiful, I have a purpose here, I deserve to love and be loved unconditionally, I am part of a greater whole, and the universe does not put us through situations we can not endure. As long as we are learning and growing, I believe no one is truly stagnant. We are all human, we struggle to get back up and keep going sometimes, we get discouraged, we let fear take over, and we forget to love ourselves. But all we can do is make a conscious effort to train our minds to think differently about ourselves and our situations and I promise you will feel empowered and unstoppable.
Above all else, I want this to be a reminder to everyone out there who is feeling down:
You are not alone, the universe is always conspiring with/for you
There is ALWAYS a lesson to be learned and you are ALWAYS growing
Even in the darkest of times, the light will persevere in the end (if you want it to)
And you are an amazing, all powerful being whose connection to the planet and the cosmos makes you deserving of all that you wish for in this life
So go out and embrace every moment of your life, pleasant or otherwise, because that is the only way to live in peace and joy for the rest of time.
Thank you for reading. I love you all 😃
Peace to all in both struggle and prosperity (after all, they are both one in the same)
Love,
Tasha

“Love Many Things” – Vincent Van Gogh

Sounds easy enough, right? And it should be. But it seems to me that we are living in a world where love is an increasingly abstract emotion and it could all be so simple.

Love is portrayed as a weakness and unconditional love seems to exist only in the fairy tales we were told as kids, when falling in love was literally a walk in the park. When I was little, I would find a new best friend to love every time I left the house, with no reservations, no concept of trust issues, no doubts or fears tainting my heart. As we grow up we think it is normal to abandon this ability to love all people and things unconditionally. In my opinion, we should only learn to love truer and deeper as we go through the trials and tribulations of life.

To love many things, and I mean to TRULY love them, unconditionally, means you must first find that love for and within yourself. You must take the time to explore every aspect of yourself. You need to discover what makes your heart sing, what creative outlet inspires you to be unapologetically you, and even those dark parts of you that you are not yet proud to claim. You must own every part of you because you were created in the light of a creator who loves you exactly as you are, and to love yourself any less is an injustice to humanity as a whole. Once you fall madly in love with yourself, you will be radiant. Opportunity will be all around you and you will discover an insight to your future that you thought was only for witches in movies with a magic crystal ball. You will find that living in a way that serves society over yourself is no longer an option.

Today we are told to finish high school, go to college, get an internship, then go get a “real job”. We are not given the approval of society to discover what we LOVE to do and to pursue that. We are told it is okay to put our passions on a back burner so that we can buy the house we can’t afford, to buy the third car we don’t need, and to work a job we don’t like just to pay for it all. This cycle of repressing who we truly want to be, repressing our purpose, and repressing our soul’s calling. Ultimately, that is what makes us anxious, depressed, judgmental, and even hateful. Because within ourselves we know that the life we are living is not fulfilling our destiny but we feel the approval of society is greater than the approval we give ourselves.

So, give yourself permission: permission to love every part of your personality, permission to abandon the dream of the world and go achieve YOUR dream, permission to hear the criticism and judgement of others without letting it deter you from your goals, and permission to love everyone (those who have wronged you, those who have wronged others, those who are strangers to you, those who seem like they get plenty of love) and everything (yes, love the trees that give you air, love the bed that gives you comfort, love the food on your plate, shit even love the plate beneath your food but be mindful not to fall in love with the material world… balance is the key here). Because once you tell yourself living for YOU is okay, love will radiate from every part of your life. Love will consume your heart and you will have no room for animosity or jealousy or hate. Love will bring you to a job and a career that you are truly passionate about. Love will bring you to success, a type of success that may not buy you a mansion or a third vacation home but it will bring you an incredible feeling of fulfillment that only comes from connecting yourself to your creator through practicing the same unconditional love he/she/it gives you each and every day.

Love yourself unconditionally and you will not just love many things, but you will love everything. You will find the light in every situation and all the love you give will come back to you a hundred times over. It may take a while to reach this stage of the “ultimate lover” and personally I find that giving myself the chance to meditate and truly be with myself and my thoughts each day brings me more love each time. I get frustrated for sure, but in the end I know that continuing the practice, continuing to live my life in a way I want to live it (no matter how it looks to everyone else) will bring me to the highest vibration and I will radiate joy in everything I do. And for me, that is all I can ask from this life. To ooze love and happiness everywhere I go, spreading unconditional love to all I come in contact with.

Peace, prosperity, and LOVE to everyone. Thanks for spending time in this space with me today.

– Tasha 
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