Meet Yourself Where You Are At

IMG_0317First, I want to introduce Appa (ah-pa)  =D … the newest addition to our little family. He’s a 4-month-old, Aussie – Keeshond mix. He is flippin adorable and fluffy and energetic and dramatic and a little monster. Needless to say… He fits right in. Also, he will be running our lives while we train him. Soooooo, pray for us. 

As I type this post, I am perfectly content. But, just a day ago, I was ready to scream my head off. Overwhelmed. Frustrated. Annoyed. Confused. I can’t choose just one emotion to describe my dis-ease. Nor can I pinpoint the exact reason. But, I imagine we all get like this. We all have those days. They come. They go. They linger and manifest into weeks. Some people handle it well. While others, like myself, must consciously extract themselves from the bottomless pit of doubt. It can be a long drawn out process… OR NOT.

Here is my solution: Accept it. Simply surrender to the emotions you are experiencing. Sometimes, “bad” moods are necessary. For whatever reason (if you dig deep enough, I’m sure you can identify it) you are at a low point in your life. It sucks. I get it. I also know that society has taught us to stay positive. To fight back. Don’t show weakness. Work through it. I get that too. It would be a shame for anyone to subject themselves to a life full of self-pity. However, your feelings are completely valid. A little self-pity can be necessary at times.

Make it easy on yourself and simply, meet yourself where you are at. If you are feeling down. Feel down. Seclude yourself and eat ice cream all day if you want. Sleep all day. Cry in a pillow. Give up your routine for a week. Wear the same sweats you’ve been wearing for three days straight. Just do it. Meet yourself where you are at. Don’t try to make yourself feel guilty for not being positive like everyone is telling you to be. Be sad. Submerge yourself into the feelings. Experience it. Love it. Laugh at it; no matter how serious you’re “supposed” to be about the situation.

But here is the important part… Know when to disassociate yourself with it. At some point become the observer. Pretend you are giving your nearest, dearest friend some incredible advice about the situation… And then, TAKE IT!

Know that you have the power to change your circumstances, IF you truly desire.

 

If you’re fixated on getting and feeling better, trying to force something you aren’t ready for. Stop. This only gets in the way. You’re just setting yourself up with an unnecessary expectation and suppressing the real issue. Meaning, even if this time you get yourself out of that funk by force, you’re not too far away from the next breakdown.

It’s okay to feel sad. It’s okay to cry. It’s okay to hate yourself. Meet yourself where you are at. Just remember, this is just another cycle, another phase, and you don’t have to identify with it.

That’s the Buddhist philosophy. #meditateonit

 

Tyler

 

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Meditation Tips

Well… hello =) Sorry it’s been a minute since our last post… I won’t make any excuses. Just know that we are officially back at it 😉

so, without any further delay

This is MEDITATION TIPS – a post that could potentially save your life

I started becoming aware of my spiritual awakening a little over a year ago. It wasn’t something I asked for (or was it? Law of Attraction, baby). It just sort of began. It was at a time when I was especially vulnerable and unsure of thmeditation101e world or my place in it. I had just gone through some HUGE changes. One of them being, not having to work anymore. I had the luxury of getting paid to attend school. I quit my job. I attended classes twice a week. I participated in a couple of online classes. I traveled a little. Worked out, daily. Had a few “flings.” Wrote some. Partied some. And read, a lot. It was nice… Until it wasn’t. I soon realized I was on a dangerous path. I craved continuous mental and/or physical stimulation. I needed to be engaged in something from the time I woke up, until the time I was able to fall asleep just to feel fulfilled. And even though I felt like I was getting a lot accomplished, in reality I was neglecting my healing process by replacing it with constant distractions. I wasn’t taking the time to really listen to myself or my needs. My addiction to stimulation began to drain me. I had to do something. So, I developed a routine. I made it a habit to roll out of bed, sit in my closest, clear my head, and meditate for 15 to 20 minutes. Every single morning.

At first, it was hard. The thoughts would not stop flowing! There were times when I left my meditation more frustrated than when I started. But, I continued. Because, there were more days where meditating actually benefited me. I felt grounded. My thoughts were clearer. I felt in control of my emotions, or at least, my reactions. And above all, I felt an unreal amount of unconditional love for myself and the people around me. Ultimately, it saved my life. Developing this one habit literally turned my world around.

Now, it’s not my job to convince you. Meditation works for me. It may or may not work for you. However, without a doubt, I believe it is worth trying. So here are some suggestions if you aren’t sure how or where to start:

  • Release all expectations – whatever anyone told you (including me) about how meditation is supposed to be or feel like, forget it. This is your own experience and there are no right or wrong ways to experience it.
  • Be consistent – give yourself at least two weeks before you decide it doesn’t work for you. And allow yourself to gradually get into it. You don’t have to jump to 20 minutes. 5 minutes a day for a while is perfectly fine.
  • If it feels forced, STOP – listen to yourself.  Go for a run instead, or journal. Yoga is also a form of meditation. Meditating is not meant to be frustrating. It’s meant to be liberating.
  • Get a stone – go to your nearest metaphysical shop and pick up a stone to hold in your hand while you meditate. Different ones help with different things, like self-love, courage, protection, grounding, etc. If you would like a suggestion, Tasha and I would be happy to help.
  • Don’t judge your thoughts – it is what it is, and there is a reason it is coming up. If it’s really bothering you, write them out before you begin and if they become a distraction, imagine letting them flow down a river, then bring yourself back to the present moment.
  • Start out focusing on your breath – take deep breaths into your lungs and in your belly, and release slowly. Visualize prana going in and out.
  • Have a mantra – if you are having a hard time getting your thoughts to stop racing, find a mantra like: “I deserve love,” “I am a positive light in the world,” “I attract positive people and situations.” Or you can google whatever fits. Say this in your head over and over.
  • Don’t rush it – allow yourself to go into it naturally and to come out of it naturally. Take your time. This is an intimate moment you owe to yourself.
  • Listen to binaural beats – these are amazing! I plan on writing a separate post about them. But until then, YouTube ‘binaural beats for meditation’ get some headphones and just relax… you are welcome ; )

Above all, see my first suggestion. Remember every experience is different and unique for each individual. The main idea is to let it all go. And to realize that whatever experience you do have, is absolutely perfect for you in that moment.

With that being said, I won’t hold you up any longer… good luck meditating friend.  And remember, we’re always here if you have any questions.

Peace and Love,

Tyler

 

 

The Invitation

In our previous post, Tasha reminded us about the importance of unconditional SELF love. This morning, if you don’t mind, I would like to further that conversation. I would like to take this time to extend an invitation to you. This is an invitation that requires you to be honest, responsible, and “nude”. Ultimately, it is a challenge. Because as we all know, it is easy to say/know something is true. What’s hard, is applying and practicing it.

First off, let’s set some guidelines for this invitation:
1) Honesty to yourself is required
2) You must be able to be fully responsible for your actions (past and present)
3) You must be willing to be open and without judgment
4) You must be receptive and accepting to all of the good, the bad, the ugly, and sad that has gone on in your life
5) All of your wishes, your fears, your regrets and your proudest moments must be included
6) You may not excluded ANYTHING

Still with me? Good… you are now ready to receive the invitation. At this point, you must get out something to write with and some paper. You may open a note on your phone or find an old receipt if necessary, whatever… Just know, it is essential for you to write all of this down. 

Now, suppose you’ve let opportunities slip by you (write them down). Suppose you have allowed your fears and doubts to limit your potential (write them down). Maybe someone (i.e. your parents, your lover, an enemy, a friend) has hacked into your brain so strategically that they have confined you into mental slavery (take note of the people that may have some influence over you). Now, explore these ideas… Are you pleased by any of this? Does it hurt you in any way? Next, ask yourself (and write)… How many events are you still wishing would occur? How many incidents are you still dwelling on? Listen to yourself for a moment, cancel out all other distracting voices. Ask yourself, “If it were up to me and there were no limitations, nobody telling me what to do, what would I be doing? Where would I be?” Ask yourself (and again, write it down), “What abilities of mine am I ignoring? What subjects or interest of mine am I constantly referring back to?” List all of these things on paper… Let it out and own it! Because chances are this is who you are. And the reason you are not fulfilled in your life presently, is because you’ve been ignoring who you are.

What are you going to do about ignoring who you truly are?

If you have come to some kind of realization, know that this revelation is free; it is also your right. You are allowed to walk around with this beautiful dream, hoping it will miraculously manifest itself, but; true power (and this invitation) is in realizing what you want and then executing. Relinquish all of your thoughts on failure, ignore all of the negative reactions you may receive, and run with a sense of urgency toward the dream you innately deserve. To have the life you really want, you must take action. No matter what the outcome may be. You must fall in love with the process and aim for YOUR vision. It may get hard, but, that is what separates the extraordinary minds from the standard ones. The dreamers from the doers. Persistence.

Please, do not suffer from the thousands of excuses as to why you should convert to conventional standards. Your brilliant mind is not made to operate in that way. Instead, fixate on the inevitable; our minds thrive on the opportunity to learn and ultimately grow. It is a natural urge. I challenge you to discover your one true purpose in a world full of infinite possibilities. I challenge you to be the most extraordinary you.

And if you need help discovering who you are, stay tuned. We’ll help you.

Also, Meditate On It 😉

Tyler